Be childlike, not childish.

Childlike is open, filled with wonder, curious, un-self-aware, fully engaged, operating without fear, pure heart, no filter, completely honest, and quick to forget, not precious whatsoever (they will spend 20 minutes building a tower with blocks only to knock it down instantly with utter glee), and they inspire everyone without fail. Childish is petty, stubborn, selfish, obstinate, it’s pouting instead of playing, it’s stunted, pathetic, it’s self-absorbed and blind to everything amazing that’s all around you at all times, sulking in a tiny corner of the world, tucked away in a shadow while the remainder of creation sparkles in glistening sunlight.

How to Write Lyrics That Are Both Meaningful and Memorable

The best lyrics say something meaningful in a memorable way. That’s the balance we’re all trying to strike in our writing. But often when we succeed in getting one half of the equation, we lack the other:

  • Problem #1: Your lyrics sound poetic but say nothing
  • Problem #2: Your lyrics say something but lack poetry

So how do you remedy these two issues?

One really effective way to do this is through a kind of Socratic dialogue, where you ask a series of questions that produces memorable, meaningful lyrics in a natural way. You can do this yourself, or you can do it with a co-writer.
In this video I talk through the process using an example from one of my songwriting students. Underneath the video I’ve transcribed (and summarized) the writing process so you can follow along with the video, or read through it separately to better understand how this all works.

THE ORIGINAL LYRICS:

Please believe me

This wasn’t easy

I need my freedom

Want you to free me

SOME ISSUES I FLAGGED (ALL EXPLAINED IN THE VID) 

The first pair of lines is great:

Please believe me 

This wasn’t easy

They tell the truth in a simple, vulnerable, endearing way (that rhymes, of course). I see a few reasons why the second two lines are not as strong as the first two:

1) The second two lines don’t expand on the thought generated in first two (the theme of difficulty)

2) The second pair of lines doesn’t give the listener any new takeaway (the verses are all about her needing freedom, in so many words)

3) We’re repeating freedom and free me which is a bit awkward

4) In the story, the point isn’t really that she wanted him to free her — it was that she left him in pursuit of her own freedom 

ENTERING THE RE-WRITING PROCESS

Now let’s get the second pair of lyrics working as hard as the first. As is so often the case, the answer is hiding in the question. Or the solution is hiding in the problem, if you like.

“What exactly wasn’t easy,” I asked?

She said, “Well I’ve never been the type to let go very easily.” Ah, okay. Letting go is what is not easy. Can we turn that into a lyric? Which became: 

To let it go

And let it be 

Well done. Now we’ve got the accuracy we need, and a bit of poetry too. The two “let its” sound nice following one after the other. And we’ve got both meaningful and memorable. Still, it seemed like we could do better. It’s back to the foundational idea, which we probed further:

Please believe me

This wasn’t easy 

“It wasn’t easy, but you still did it anyway,” I pointed out. “Why?” 

“I need my freedom!” she repeated. Sometimes you just don’t know another way to express what you’re trying to say. When that happens, it can help to just open up your brain and think out loud, which she did: “I don’t know, it’s like a feeling racing through me.”

We can certainly work with that. A big part of being a good songwriter is being a good listener. That means listening for ideas, meaning, and insights, often fluttering by in little unassuming phrases like “racing through me.” It’s a great bit of visceral imagery, so we added it in:

I need my freedom 

Racing through me 

“Okay, we’re getting hot on the tail of something good here,” I said. “But it’s not really the ‘freedom’ that’s racing through you as yet, is it? Because we’re talking about how it wasn’t easy to take the leap. You’re still on the precipice. What more can we tell the listener about that moment?” She came back with: 

I can’t name this feeling 

Racing through me 

A great step forward. Now we’re addressing the confusion, or perhaps the doubt, that attends every big life decision or change. But let’s push on. “Is the heart of the issue that you can’t name the feeling?” I asked. Then we had the ah-ha… It wasn’t easy to face the feeling! Now we’ve got it: 

Please believe me

It wasn’t easy 

To face this feeling

Racing through me

In the end, what wasn’t easy was for her to face the feeling that she was ready to move on from her relationship. And we said as much in a really artful way.

So there you have it folks. Meaningful and memorable and true and poignant and simple and universal and everything you want a great lyric to be. Hope this little transcription-of-sorts helps with the video.

Enjoy chipping away at this wonderful craft we call songwriting, and if you’d ever like to book a co-writing sesh or a songwriting lesson with me, here’s where you can do it (and even grab a free trial if you like). Cheers!

Be the Soundtrack to Their Good Time

I was in Nashville sitting in a Starbucks with my friend Pablo, another singer-songwriter. We were talking shop and he started expressing a common frustration among bar-hopping troubadours such as ourselves. “I’m getting tired of standing up there singing while everybody is just yapping. Nobody cares, nobody’s paying attention. They’re just drinking their Bud Lights and carrying on with their friends! I start to wonder what’s the point.”

I get it. As singers, songwriters, and performers, we imagine holding an audience rapt with attention—hanging on our every word. How many times have we gone to see our favorite performers do their thing in that kind of environment? We want that for ourselves. We want to be heard and appreciated. And, in our most noble moments, we hope that our music can actually change somebody else—lift them up, make them feel good, give them something inspiring to bring with them through life’s ups and downs.

So when we’re struggling to be heard over a noisy tavern crowd, we start to judge the patrons, thinking they’re a bunch of non-music-appreciating animals, or that we’re too good, too talented, for that kind of scene. But there’s a flaw in that way of thinking. Because really deep down, it’s all about you. Look at me. Pay attention to me. See how good I am. Tell me how great my songs are, or how great a singer I am. It’s actually very needy, which is a pretty big turn off. You’re expecting to get something from your audience before you’ve really even given them something. “But Paul, if they just paid attention to me, I could give them the gift I want to give!” No. You’ve got it backwards. If you paid attention to them first, then they might give you the opportunity to share the gift you want to give.

This is an idea that goes way beyond performing and songwriting. It’s fundamental to how we communicate and build relationships as human beings. As Dale Carnegie famously put it in How to Win Friends and Influence People, “If you want to be interesting, be interested.” That’s basically what we’re talking about here. Before you seek adoration from your audience, seek to adore them. Kind of heavy-handed language for talking about playing “Two Pina Coladas” in the corner of some dive. But I think you get the point.

I told Pablo that I had the same frustration for many years. But eventually I changed my way of thinking. I decided that instead of wanting everybody to stand silently and reverently in awe of me and my talents, I was simply going to enjoy being the soundtrack to their good time. Go ahead, put me in the corner. Don’t even look at me if you don’t want to. Just go about your business, having fun with your friends, and I’ll happily strum and sing along in the background while you share laughs and make memories.

It was a transformative shift. All of a sudden I felt like the quarterback of the evening—seeing it all from a distance, every interaction, every group of friends having a ball and every couple falling to pieces, all the little details of the scene playing out before me. And I was providing the music to their story. I found I could more easily make the girls sway their hips. And make the guys nod their heads. It relieved me of the pressure of ego-driven feeling of, “Don’t these people appreciate good music? Why won’t they pay attention to me, me, me, MEEEEEEE?” and it instantly made me a quietly interwoven part of their experience—rather than being apart from it.

And you know what the irony is? Once I adopted this new approach, people actually started to pay more attention to me. They felt like I was there for them. They could sense it. The walls came down, and they became interested. And we’d interact more. They’d make requests. I’d banter back and forth with them. My bar gigs went from what felt a confrontational stand-off between performer and audience to more of a dialogue, where there was an exchange happening between us—often on a totally subtle and even unconscious level—that seemed to elevate the whole evening. When that happens, everyone wins.

So don’t get stuck where so many other singer / songwriter / performers end up, complaining and frustrated because they think they deserve more accolades than they’re getting. Flip the script. Be the soundtrack to their good time—and watch how everything changes from there on out.

I Wish I Wrote That: “Signed, Sober You” by HARDY

I love it when a song just levels me with sheer craft. Like… it’s so good, it makes me mad. But it also makes me smile. And I can’t decide whether I want to pick up a guitar or throw in the towel once and for all. Yes, when that happens you know you’ve stumbled across a winner. And HARDY’s “Signed, Sober You” is one such tune:

There are a million things to love about this tune but let me just share a few thoughts on why it’s such a fine piece of songwriting.

1. We’re in the scene from line one

Third shot down, I’m in trouble

I love this opening line. “Third shot down, I’m in trouble”. Bang! Right away, we’re thrust into a bar scene with our hero. You don’t need to be watching the video to see the flickering neon beer signs, sense the pool table off in the corner, and practically feel the chunky wooden bar underneath your forearms. From the first six words we’re sucked into the world of this character. It’s instant drama—and we want to know what happens next.

2. A healthy dose of suspense

Stumble through the front door, gone as it gets

Flip the kitchen light on, there it it

On the fridge, just my luck

“Read this if you’re drunk”

Something is unfolding. We know that much. But what exactly is this all about? The details are coming slow and steady but we still don’t quite have the full picture. Even as the note on the fridge appears, we don’t know who it’s from. And if you’re like me, you might assume it’s from the lover who recently left him. But like me, you’d be wrong.

3. An original idea, expressed simply

Don’t think about it, mister

Don’t even touch your phone

I know you think you miss her

But I promise you, you don’t

There’s healing in the lonely

Sit back, kick off your boots

And you’ll thank me in the morning

Like you always do

Signed, sober you

Arrgggghhhhhhh!! So. So. So. Good. Now we finally understand what this song is all about. I love the plain-speak, “Don’t think about it mister, don’t even touch your phone.” It’s a great example of how you to don’t need big words to convey big ideas. As Mark Twain put it, “Don’t use a five-dollar word when a fifty-cent word will do.”

4. Playing with language

There’s healing in the lonely

I particularly love this line in the chorus. What an original expression. He transforms the word “lonely” from an adjective into a noun—if not a proper noun: The Lonely, capital L, right? A lesser writer might have said, “There’s healing in feeling lonely,” or “There’s healing in the lonely times.” But as writers we’re free to bend, twist, push, and break the language. Whatever it takes to get the message across.

5. Making every word count

P.S., there’s pizza in the freezer, Dumb and Dumber on the TV

It’s so stupid, that’s what you’d be

To go diggin’ through her Instagram

If you’re thinkin’ ’bout that, read this again

Pizza, freezer, Dumb and Dumber, TV—the details continue to paint the picture. We’re back at our hero’s apartment. Look at how Hardy uses the word “diggin’”. He could have said “lookin’” or “checkin’ out.” But he found a far more visceral word, far more active and emotionally charged. It perfectly reflects the desperation of the narrator.

6. Zooming in, zooming out

Yeah, well remember last time that you hit her up

You heard some other guy, how much does that suck?

That set you back a month, yeah, trust me, old friend

You don’t wanna go down that road again

In movie-making, an actor’s performance will feel very different when it’s shot close and tight, versus far and wide. We have the same perspective tools available to us in writing. Thus far, we’ve been zoomed in on the details of a single night. Here in the bridge Hardy zooms out to give us the bird’s eye view to help us better understand what’s at stake for our character.

7. A twist at the end

Don’t think about it, mister

Don’t even touch your phone

I know you wanna kiss her

But I promise you, you don’t

It’s always a nice stroke of craft to give the listener a little something extra at the end of a song. Hardy swaps “miss” for “kiss” here, just to put a cherry on top.

I could go on and on, but I’ll stop here. Well done compadre!

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In Songwriting, One Word is All it Takes

It never fails to fascinate me how one word can unlock an entire song.

I was in the gym the other day and “Speechless” by Dan + Shay was playing. It was the first time I’d heard it, and it was instantly memorable. With that one word they did what so many of us songwriters are trying to do—find a way to express something universal in a fresh way. “Speechless” is just another love song. But it’s love as seen through a very particular lens. That lens is the concept, and the concept is the word.

Not only does the song revolve around one specific word, but that word revolves around one specific moment. No one is speechless for any length of time. It happens in a split second that leaves you slack-jawed. Drawing on a specific emotionally-charged moment like that gives your writing clarity and vigor. Without that focus, you often end up in the land of platitudes and generalities.

Or take another single-word-titled love song, “Crazy” by Willie Nelson. One word, one concept. And not a terribly unusual word either. Both “Speechless” and “Crazy” are ordinary, everyday words. But in a good writer’s hands they take on extraordinary meaning.

Sometimes my songwriting students get hung up, thinking they can’t use words that have already been used. Get over that. Gnarls Barkley did when he wrote his own version of a song called “Crazy”. I’m sure there were plenty of naysayers telling him he should steer clear of that word. But once it was released, none of us seemed to mind as we all belted it out for about a year straight—while along the way it topped the Billboard charts, won a Grammy, and eventually ended up on Rolling Stones 500 Greatest Songs of all Time list.

Then there’s the question of how you sing that one word. Think about how Mick Jagger sings the word “Satisfaction.” Sat-is-fac-tion. It comes out of his mouth all choppy, both frustrated and orgasmic at once. The fractured delivery adds to the meaning.

Going back to the two versions of  “Crazy,” the same holds true.  Willie just about sighs that word, doesn’t he? You can almost hear him shrugging, shaking his head, as the melody lilts from high to low, low to high. Gnarls did the exact opposite. His “Crazy” was exasperated, bursting with energy, top of his range, a total unleashing of pent-up energy.

Same word, different feeling.

There are nearly 200,000 words in the English dictionary. Open it up, pick one, and turn it into a song. Or, the next time a particular word catches your ear in conversation, jot it down and see where you can take it. If all else fails, you can simply write your own version of “Crazy”.

If you want some guidance along the way, or you’d like learn more about the craft of songwriting in general, book a free trial songwriting lesson with me today.

How tall is your song?

So you’ve written a song. Now, how do you play it?

To me, the answer often comes down to understanding the nature of your song. In other words, its character.

How tall or short is it? What does it like to wear? Is it weepy or joyous? Does it bark at you, or sing you to sleep? Does it sit you on its knee to tell you a story, or seduce you into doing things you’d never dream of doing?

Once we’ve written a song (and often during the writing process) we’re getting to know this song. And certainly once the song is written—the raw structure, the chords, the lyrics—it becomes a matter of presentation. This can include anything from the key you’re in, to the style, to the tempo, to the feel.

If you’re like Bob Dylan, you might choose to vary these elements from night to night — depending on how you’re seeing things. This is artistry. This is seizing the mercury of life and transmuting it into the physical realm in order to marvel at it, share it with others, give us a glimpse of the impossible. To help us better know the unknown. That’s what songwriting is, that’s what performing is, that’s what this whole thing is about.

I remember one student who had written a great song called “Break Something,” about a man who had come unhinged under the mad pressures of life. The concept was fantastic, the lyrics brilliant… but the delivery was lacking something. He was playing it in sort of a folksy strum. It was laid back and placid—whereas the actual content of the song was the complete opposite.

Together we wondered, how could we use style to reveal more of the song’s natural character? Well, if I’m in the land of Folk and I need to add more wildness, I take a step to rock n roll. And if from rock n roll I still want to add even more menace, danger, and out-and-out unpredictability, I go to rockabilly.

And that’s what we did. We reimagined “Break Something” from a back porch strummer into a a hot-rodding, slicked back, swaggering, loose cannon of a rockabilly song.

Off came the 2nd fret capo and we found ourselves not in the bright and sunny strum of D-G-A, but in the open-chorded mayhem of E-A-B. Gone was the laid back tempo and we ratcheted things up to, well, a break-neck pace. Out went the plaintive vocal delivery and in came a growl and a hiss and a bite that infused every line with danger. Do you see what I mean? We’re demonstrating the content of the song in the style in which we execute it.

Every song has a character to it. Discover it—and use every tool in your arsenal to reveal it to your audience.

The Gnarliest Mic

Yesterday I was helping a student prepare for an upcoming performance. On the stage where we were rehearsing there were 4 or 5 different mics in stands she could sing through. They were all nice, clean brand new mics in good condition.

All but one, that is—an old SM57 that was all dented up, sort of grimey, and looked like it had seen better days.

“Which mic should I use?” she asked me.

The way I look at it, much of being a good performer is about defying expectations. That’s how you keep your audience on their toes. And it’s also how you keep things fun and interesting for yourself.

I pointed to the gnarly mic. “How about that one,” I said.

“This one?” she asked, puzzled. “It’s all beat up and destroyed.”

“Yeah,” I said. “That’s the one that probably sounds best,” I said.

“Why?” she asked.

“Because people keep using it,” I replied.

She laughed. Who knows? That funky mic has the life and spirit of a probably thousand or more shows, artists, and songs in it. Maybe she could tap into that power.

Think of it like an old beat up pair of jeans. They somehow contain the life you’ve lived. Your experiences, your attitudes, your soul are embodied in every rip, hole, and dangling wisp of thread.

I saw a twinkle of recognition in her eyes. She picked the gnarly mic and delivered a blistering performance. We were both smiling afterwards.

Train yourself to see the beauty in the other choice. The less obvious choice. Everyone would go for one of the nice mics. And everyone would look the same. Sound the same. It’s the safe choice. And great art is never safe.

Trust yourself

When Paul McCartney was writing “Hey Jude,” he played it in half-finished form for John Lennon. When he got to the line, “The movement you need is on your shoulder,” he leaned over to John and mouthed, “I’ll change that bit.”

“You won’t, you know,” said John. John felt those were some of the best lyrics in the song.

As writers, singers, creative people, so often we’re quick to point out what’s wrong with our own work.

We see with painful clarity where it fails, why it fails, and how short it falls of our standards.

It’s true, that if we want to get good, we have to push ourselves. That process involves a lot of study, practice, and honest reflection. We have to learn to see where we’re weak, and work to improve those areas. It’s part of the challenge, and the joy, of developing your craft.

But sometimes, what we need is the opposite.

Rather than learning to see what’s wrong with our work, we need to learn to see what’s right about it.

That’s what John saw that Paul didn’t.

The line stayed in the song. “Hey Jude” was released in 1968 and went on to become one of the most famous songs of all time. It broke numerous chart records, sold millions of copies, and was The Beatles’ longest running number one single in the United States.

By all means, learn to develop yourself. But learn to trust yourself too.

Checklist: 6 Pillars of Good Songwriting

So much of songwriting is problem-solving. As you write, you need to get in the habit of knocking on your tune from every angle to make sure it’s as sturdy as possible. Here are a few things you can check to make sure your song is as good as it can be.

1. Concept: Is the song’s concept clear and singular? Is it summed up in a compelling way in the song’s chorus or tagline? Is it fresh? Memorable? Does it ring true?

2. Lyrics: Do all the lyrics ladder up to the song’s concept? Do they feel honest? Build tension? Tell a story, or create a mood? Are they sufficiently surprising, or are there cliches that can be eliminated? Are there opportunities to show, rather than tell?

3. Melody: Does the melody sing well with the lyrics? Does it roll off the tongue naturally? Is it sufficiently varied enough between the verse/chorus/bridge to keep the listener engaged? Is it hooky enough to be remembered after a single listen?

4. Chords/Key: Do the chords support the melody as well as they could? Are there any riffs or rhythmic accents we could make it more musical? Is everything harmonically congruent, or are there moments where it feels like we’re *leaving the song*? Is it being sung in a key that flatters the singer’s voice?

5. Style: Does the style of the music reflect the content of the lyrics? Are there ways the execution of the song (voicings, vocal range, tempo, genre) could better suit message the song is trying to put across?

6. Concision: Are we getting the job done with as few parts / chords / words as possible? Are we keeping the listener on the hook as the song moves along? Are there any places where the *less is more* rule of thumb could be applied?

So there you have it. These are 6 pillars that have served me well and I hope they’ll do the same for you. Oh, and don’t forget–you’re an artist. So don’t be dogmatic. Remember that you can violate any one or all six of these pillars and still write a great song. Happy writing!

What Do the Numbers Mean In Music?

You’re sitting around a campfire at a party. Sooner or later the guitars come out. You grab one.

“What should we play,” you ask? Somebody names a tune. “Cool,” you say. “I don’t know that one, but what are the chord changes?” Another person tells you it’s in the key of E and starts rattling off a bunch of numbers. “Got it,” you say, nodding your head. Next thing you know, you’re making sweet, sweet music together under the moonlight.

How can people who’ve never met before play a song together, right on the spot, with zero rehearsal? Even if one of them has never even heard that song before? And what do the numbers mean?

Guitarist Melanie Faye has a great, simple explanation right here: